Understanding Your Personality and Mindset - Lesson 10

Understanding the Subjective Mindset

In this lesson, you will gain a comprehensive understanding of the subjective, esthetic mindset. You'll learn how these individuals make up around 70% of the population and are emotionally touched by their surroundings and the people they come in contact with. The esthetic mindset is creative, expressive, and sensitive to the environment. You will learn how to communicate effectively with them and understand the challenges they may face in relationships with different mindsets. The lesson will also guide you on how to utilize their unique abilities in a church setting and provide an assessment to better understand their sensitivity levels and common concepts associated with the esthetic mindset.
Chuck Coker
Understanding Your Personality and Mindset
Lesson 10
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Understanding the Subjective Mindset

Lesson: Understanding the Subjective Mindset

I. Introduction to the Subjective Mindset

A. Prevalence in the population

B. Emotional responsiveness

II. The Esthetic Mindset

A. Creativity and personal potential

B. Emotional expression

C. Sensitivity to environment

III. Communication and Relationships

A. Adapting speech patterns

B. Challenges with different mindsets

IV. Utilizing the Esthetic Mindset in the Church

A. Roles and contributions

B. Communication strategies

V. Assessment of Esthetic Mindset

A. Scoring and interpretation

B. Sensitivity levels

VI. Common Concepts for Esthetic Mindsets

A. Strengths and weaknesses

B. Goals and driving forces

  • By studying this lesson, you'll learn the foundations of personality and mindset, explore major personality theories, understand the impact of mindset on personality, and apply this knowledge to improve self-awareness, relationships, and career satisfaction.
  • Through this lesson, you'll explore personality theories and mindset concepts, gaining insights on how to develop a growth mindset to positively impact your personality and overall well-being.
  • Through this lesson, you gain insight into personality theories, differentiate fixed and growth mindsets, and learn strategies to develop a growth mindset, fostering self-awareness and personal growth.
  • Through this lesson, you learn about the major personality theories and the role of mindset in personal growth, leading to improved resilience, emotional intelligence, and interpersonal relationships.
  • Learn about personality theories and the impact of fixed and growth mindsets on behavior, while acquiring strategies to cultivate a positive mindset for personal and professional success.
  • Through this lesson, you explore various personality theories and learn to navigate between fixed and growth mindsets, enabling you to enhance your personal and professional life.
  • This lesson teaches the significance of mindsets in ministry work, discussing how they adapt to different environments and help with spiritual growth. It covers three types of mindsets—objective, subjective, and belief—and emphasizes that there is no direct correlation between behaviors and mindsets.
  • You will learn about different mindsets and how they impact people's approach to tasks and interactions, particularly the objective mindset, which focuses on learning and effectiveness and values quality over quantity in ministry settings, while understanding these mindsets can improve communication and collaboration.
  • Understanding the utilitarian mindset can help you maximize their strengths in ministry work, as they focus on practicality, efficiency, and achieving tangible results, while also addressing their spiritual needs and potential weaknesses, such as overlooking details and people's needs.
  • This lesson delves into the subjective, esthetic mindset, highlighting their emotional responsiveness, creativity, sensitivity to the environment, and expression. You will learn effective communication strategies, the challenges they face in relationships, and how to utilize their abilities in a church setting, ultimately gaining a comprehensive understanding of this prevalent mindset.
  • In this lesson, you gain insight into the social mindset's role and challenges in the church and ministry, learning to recognize and support individuals with this mindset while maintaining a balance between self-care and caring for others to ensure a healthy and effective ministry.
  • This lesson delves into the individualistic belief mindset, exploring its characteristics, challenges, and roles in the church, while offering guidance on effectively communicating with these individuals and fostering their personal growth.
  • This lesson explores the traditional mindset, its characteristics, challenges, and how to effectively engage with those who possess it, as well as the implications of various traditional mindset scores, ultimately helping you understand and navigate relationships with individuals who hold strong convictions and beliefs.
  • Gain insight into the importance of mindsets over behaviors, assess your thinking style and strengths, identify service opportunities based on personal preferences, and learn to better connect with others by understanding their hobbies and interests to effectively share the gospel.
  • Gain insight into your own mindsets and how they fit with others, reflect on your personal history, and enhance your emotional intelligence to build meaningful relationships through understanding yourself and others.

In this course, you will gain knowledge and insights into personality and mindset. You will learn about the different personality theories, including psychoanalytic, trait, humanistic, and social-cognitive theory. You will also explore the two main mindset theories: fixed mindset and growth mindset. By the end of this class, you will have a better understanding of the importance of understanding personality and mindset and how to apply this knowledge to personal and leadership development, team building, and conflict resolution.

Dr. Chuck Coker
Understanding Your Personality and Mindset
Understanding the Subjective Mindset
Lesson Transcript

[00:00:00] We're going to change gears now. We're actually going to move on from those logical, objective people to people that are emotionally touched by their surroundings and the people that they come in contact with. We call them subjective because guess what? They make up almost 70% of the population. So therefore, seven out of ten people that you meet are going to be subjective. They're very susceptible to people in circumstances. So we need to understand them and understand them well, because we're going to run into these people a lot more quickly that we're going to run into others. So let's learn a little bit about the subjective mindset.

[00:00:54] The subjective mindset, the aesthetic mindset is one that is very, very unique and often misunderstood. Just because they can get distracted lost in the moment, especially when problems arise, don't mean that there is not a wealth of information inside their brain. Because they can appear emotional when they're under pressure and they will be quick to share the feelings that they're experiencing. But when you think about the whole concept of aesthetic, think about the fact of harmony, of beauty, of self-actualization. And it's easy to understand how that intense feeling can cause a person to to get distracted and to feel emotional when they're under pressure. Because this is a very creative mind, because they want to achieve their personal potential. And that potential can be in a wide variety of areas that we're going to talk about, and we're going to focus on things like creative writing, artistic music. These are people that achieve that personal potential that we're talking about through expression. And expression is the natural outgrowth of emotional response. These are the kind of people that you want at the front altar, that when they lay their hands on you, they are being able to get the message, to feel the spirit working inside of them and to know how to pray for you. Because they solve these problems through their instincts and big picture thinking, because what they're trying to do is actually bring balance into your life and help you achieve a state, maybe not so much of a euphoria, but a state of balance and peace. 

[00:03:31] One thing that you'll notice about them is that their communication and speech patterns can change based on the amount of emotion at that particular moment. Because they're going to say things like, oh, that just doesn't look right, I feel like, don't you just love it? Would you describe that to me? Help me see the big picture. That intensity drives them to the outdoors where they can sense the greatness of God in nature. They love gardening, they love remodeling. They love making things better than they were before. That's why they surround themselves with music and art and gardens and beauty and lakes and rivers and trees. They need to build harmony. And all of those outside influences help bring that harmony and balance so that they can identify new approaches to just about anything. You see, we want them around. They're the ones that are going to write the music for the sermon. They're the ones that are going to arrange the flowers around the church that bring about a beautiful aroma or a feeling of God's beauty there, because in the church we see them as the sensitive, the creative, the dreamers that help us understand the depth and breadth of God. But those of us that are more objective and more focused continue to stress these people out. And when we do, their mind gets cluttered, they get disorganized, and their environment doesn't look like what they want it to do. And the sad thing is, is that when that environment gets out of shape, they struggle to get back into that organization. They struggle to have relationships with people in a meaningful way because things are not the way they're supposed to be.

[00:06:21] So as we focus with them, we have to understand that they are and tend to be idealistic. They are a very unique mindset. Because you can start describing things to them and all of a sudden inside their brain, a picture starts developing and they begin to see what a finished product. Even though you haven't finished describing it, the challenge is that they can block out everything once they get that picture and then build it a way that you don't want it and that causes them deep frustration. So when they start finishing your sentences for you and start digging in their heels, they may actually appear rigid and focused and hardheaded, but make sure that you bring them back to the key concept. 

[00:07:25] And I'm going to give you a four step process to help you with an aesthetic to make sure that you get the point across and you get it done. Number one is paint a picture for them. Tell them what the final outlook needs to look like. Second. Tell them exactly what you want them to do to help you achieve that. Number three has three parts. What resources do they have? What are the potential problems and what is the time frame that they have to work in? Then ask them to communicate it back to you. That will eliminate all of that creative mindset where they've gotten ahead of you and drawn up finished picture before you ever get there. Because if you don't, they may struggle articulating what they are sensing and they may be describing it in an illogical way that comes out in a way to where they're going to build a cathedral and all you wanted was a gas station. So you have to think and reason through with them by giving them that structure to help them get there. Otherwise, they're going to disengage if they feel like you're not communicating in a way that they understand. 

[00:09:07] Now, you can imagine that this mindset is going to have some problems with the objective people. Because they're going to think that the theoretical and the utilitarian are really unfeeling and task oriented. And they can't even imagine what the beauty, harmony and creativity you're about to display. But on the other hand, the subjective social, they are going to feel like they care more about people than the situation and circumstances that are actually in front of them. They'll really struggle with belief people because they tend to be so focused on the way that things are done or what they believe needs to be done, that they are missing the whole concept of what the ideal outcome should really look like.

[00:10:09] So how do we put them to work in our churches? Put him in a place where they can beautify the church or develop harmony among groups of people or just minister to people, bringing them together in a way that love is expressed. Put them on a prayer team, put them at the front at the altar, so that when people come up, they can pray for them. They want to enhance not just the way the place looks, but the way the place impacts. It's all about the experience to the highest aesthetic. They just want to do what they do well and creating an experience that has a lifetime of meaning to them is the way they want to do that. So. When you're communicating with the high aesthetic, point into something that they can feel inside, something that evokes their emotions. If you have to, focus on pain points or how to develop themselves personally. But most of all allow them to express themselves. Ask them open ended questions so that they can tell you about it and give them the time to let that out. Most of all, either you paint the big picture or the big story, or you let them rehearse it to you.

[00:11:55] Now pull out your assessment results and let's look at the scores. See what they mean. If your score is 56 to 70, that means you have a hyper sensitivity to the environment and it's going to be impacted by your emotions and idealism. In other words, you're going to see things the way that you think they are perfect regardless of cost and outside influences. 44 to 55, the environment will either enhance or detract from their well-being. Therefore, they're going to be swayed by emotions and idealism. 34 to 43, they are very sensitive to the environment which impacts their well-being because they're often swayed by feelings and content to be idealistic. 27 to 33 indicates that that sensitivity is going on around them. And from time to time they're going to be swayed by their feelings and preconceived notions. So they're in that situational level. And if they think it's important that a church or a ministry present a certain type of image, then they will be on it. If they don't think it's important, they won't. 18 to 26 indicates that they may be sensitive to their environment and they can be swayed by circumstances, but it's got to be important. 10 to 17 indicates that they are just somewhat sensitive and they prefer not to be emotional. When you get down into this in the lower range of 1-9, you've got people who just aren't really very observant and they're not really paying attention to what's going on around them, especially with circumstances. And that in and of itself can lead to a pastor or an elder or a leader to assume things that aren't really true. And having that lack of sensitivity is what gets us into trouble more often than not. 

[00:14:30] Now let's talk about the concepts that are common to all mindsets with aesthetic. Power comes in the form of the ability to see, hear, absorb and actualize the potential. Their passion is experiencing the world in life, all that it has to offer because they love being in the moment. When did they get outside their limits? By functioning only in their ideal world or outside of reality. They get very stressed if there aren't harmonious relationships form beauty or if the environment is disturbed. How do you get your point across? Focus on the feelings, removing the pain, discomfort and stress. So where do you find them in the church? Well, they've got to have that creativity and freedom. So you're going to find them on the communications, the graphic arts team. They'll want to help with interior decorating, working on the lawns, and even providing fashion and music and writing and drama to emphasize spiritual principles. The driving force, on the other hand, is to enjoy and experience the beauty around oneself and allow it to mold into everything they imagine they could be. What's their goal? It's to have an appreciation of the experience as they self-actualize in their spiritual life.

[00:16:39] So this type of individual brings some very unusual resources to the church. Let's talk about that. First of all, they have a passion for watching God moving in all aspects of life, particularly in their own development, because they're in tune with their environment and they have the ability to visualize the potential impact of God in their life. So they are very focused on making sure that happens. 

[00:17:15] But while they're doing that, the liability is, is that they may have strong bouts of idealism. In other words, the ministries should be run a certain way. They can be more concerned about the appearance of the ministry than what the ministry is actually accomplishing. The mission statement may say one thing, but they may think it means something else. You just have to remember that their perspective is often based on the circumstances of the moment. Now they do want to serve. They want to make the environment nice for those who are serving. They want to be in situations where they can bring their special abilities to the forefront. They are intensely in the moment but they also have spiritual needs because they need a stronger faith during challenging times since they are subjective and they have circumstances impacting them. It may impact their faith so they actually need to function more in reality than ideals. They need to see beyond the circumstances and environmental issues that they are involved in at that particular time. 

[00:18:50] So what are the key points that we need to remember about the subject of aesthetic? Well, their whole goal is to build balance relationships with a structured and meaningful environment. They express themselves through feeling and writing and will shut down when they're not acknowledged or when they're in chaotic type situations. They enjoy things that make them feel better, and that often comes when they're outdoors, when they're hearing music or when they're observing the art that they're exposed to. Ministry-wise, they must actually feel and be able to express themselves in a ministry. They need to communicate expressively using images to paint a picture of the final outcome of what it's supposed to look like, smell like and taste like. I hope the better helps you understand this very unique mindset. And it probably evokes some questions. So what questions do you have.

[00:20:25] When you compare the perspective of people that come from a theoretical mindset or utilitarian mindset or a subjective mindset, realizing that those are all part of a body of Christ and hopefully a specific local body of Christ, what are some specific ways to encourage them to see each other as allies and as assets, rather, and somebody they care about and love rather than as threats? 

[00:21:07] Very good question, because it's so common in most ministries. The high aesthetic person wants to express and be recognized for their expression. Yet the objective person that you referred to is all about getting things done rather than just purely being in the forefront and making things happen. I would take them to Ephesians four, Romans 12 or first Corinthians 12 and help them deepen their understanding of the fact that there is one spirit, but there is great diversity in that spirit. And as they begin to see the gifts of the Spirit, then show them first, John 2:12-14 and the levels of spiritual maturity that Paul illustrates in that book, because the more expressive they are and the more subjective they are, the more likely they'll stay in spiritual childhood and not move to that young adult or church father. So what they need to understand is that as that creative mind works, it's important that they express themselves, but it's not the only important thing to their spiritual maturity or the development of the body of Christ.